The first thing you need to achieve your goals is motivation. If you don’t have it, then achieving them won’t be easy for you. There are many ways to get motivated but one way is through doing something that excites you or makes you feel good. For example, if you want to lose weight, exercise might be the best option for getting yourself into shape. Another way is through reading motivational books or watching inspirational videos online. These two methods are effective for some people but not all of them. Some people just aren’t interested in exercising or reading books about their goals. They want to do it right now!
So, how can you motivate someone else to do something they’re not interested in doing?
Well, there’s no other way than to give them a reason why they should be motivated. That’s where the third thing comes into play: Objective Analysis.
Objective Analysis is a technique used to analyze the reasons behind a person’s behavior. It helps us understand why certain behaviors occur, so we can learn from our mistakes and avoid repeating them in the future. Objectives are important because they help us identify problems with our current approach to accomplishing goals, or even better, provide new ideas on how to accomplish goals more efficiently.
By doing some objective analysis on the people who you want to be motivated, you will be able to come up with better ways of motivating them than just throwing motivational material at them.
Let’s take an example to make this a bit clearer. Let’s say you want your significant other to help you clean up the house. They are usually not as concerned about keeping things tidy as you would like them to be.
You can scream at them, nag them, and even try to bribe them to do it but these methods don’t always work. They may work sometimes but you can’t rely on a sporadic influencing machine. If you really want them to help you out, you’re going to have to analyze why they aren’t helping in the first place and address that issue.
Was it because they grew up in a messy household and they don’t see the issue with keeping a messy home?
If that’s the case, then maybe you should address that first before even discussing this issue with them. Maybe during your talk, you can bring up how you both had a different upbringing or something similar to build a connection and have them relate to your situation. Once that is done, the issue of cleaning up the house should be much easier to talk about.
Now let’s say you’re a business owner and you want one of your staff members to meet their sales goal this month. Your staff member is usually motivated but for some reason they haven’t been putting in as much work lately and their sales have been suffering because of it. You can scold them, give them more work, or even bribe them to do better but again, these methods don’t always work.
You can try the same tactics mentioned above but if you want to be more efficient with your time, then you need to address the real reason behind their lack of motivation.
Was it a bad break up? Are they having money issues? Or is it something at work that is making them unhappy?
Once you find the real reason behind their lack of motivation, you can address it and hopefully get them back on track.
Always be on the lookout for patterns in people’s behavior because these are key signs as to why they’re doing what they’re doing. Once you have an idea of why, you can try to address that issue during your analysis of the situation and try to find a solution.
Once you have some solutions in mind, try them out. If they work, then great! If not, go back to step one and re-evaluate the situation.
Stay tuned for the final installment in this mini-series where I’ll be going over some everyday situations and how you can apply the skills you’ve learned today!
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