“Hot or Not” Is No Way to Pick a Coach

The Hot or Not Crush

A hot or not crush is when someone is interested in another person because they are hotter than them. A crush may be mutual, but it’s still considered a hot or not crush if one party finds the other attractive. There are several reasons why a guy might like a girl more than her. One reason could be because she’s younger than him, or prettier, or smarter, etc.

Another reason could be due to jealousy. If a guy really likes you so much that he would rather have you over some random chick then he probably does it out of jealousy.

It doesn’t matter what the real reason is; all that matters is that he thinks you’re hot enough to make up for whatever shortcoming he perceives in himself.

You don’t need to agree with the guy, but you do want to avoid being involved with guys who think they’re better than you. You don’t even have to be jealous; just realize that there’s nothing wrong with liking girls more than boys.

If a guy is into you purely because he thinks you’re hot, then it’s time to break up with him. He’s probably not the kind of guy you want to be with anyway. It doesn’t matter if he’s nice to you and treats you well, because if he doesn’t respect what’s most important to you then the relationship will never last.

Finding a guy who is actually right for you takes time, but it’s worth it in the long run.

Hot or Not Inactive

If you’re new to the hot or not community, it’s important to remember that a lot of people are inactive. When you see any guy on a website who is checking out other girls, he probably just wants to let you know. You should be flattered that he’s at least looking at your profile, and it’s time for you to check out his.

As with anything, there are exceptions to the rule. If you notice any guy has been inactive for a really long time (at least several months) then he’s probably not going to log in again. Don’t be alarmed if you find this out after you’ve already started talking to him. This isn’t a big deal because it’s not like he was an active member of the website to begin with.

He probably just found your profile in a random search and wanted you to see how pretty he thinks you are. If that’s the case, then you should definitely return the favor and check out his profile. If you don’t, he might get the impression that you’re not interested. You never know, you might actually find him attractive.

Don’t worry about coming across as desperate either; he already thinks you’re attractive, so there’s no need to worry about looking desperate.

It’s Not Okay to Have a “Type”

Guys tend to have a type when it comes to girls. If you’ve noticed that a guy tends to like a certain body type or hair color, then go ahead and play that up if you want. For example, if you have long blonde hair and you notice that he keeps looking at your profile, then by all means continue to keep your hair long.

However, you shouldn’t change yourself to try to please guys. For example, if a guy only seems to be interested in Asian girls, then you shouldn’t start coloring your hair. The reason is because there are plenty of guys who don’t have a type and will like any girl. If you do happen to change yourself just to try to please one guy, then you might miss out on the opportunity to connect with another guy who likes you for who you are.

If you’re concerned that a guy has a type because he only seems to be interested in girls who look a certain way, then the best thing to do is just continue being yourself. If you start changing yourself just to please him, then that’s when you run the risk of losing who you really are.

Once again, there’s nothing wrong with playing up your assets if it means getting more attention.

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