Strong Parents, Strong Kids: What Is It?
What is it that makes parents strong? How do they get stronger? Why are some parents weak and others strong?
These questions have been asked many times throughout history. And the answers vary from person to person. Some say that strength comes from genetics while other says it’s due to training or discipline.
But what exactly does it mean when we say “strong”?
The word “strong” is used in several different ways. For example, we might use the term strong to refer to physical strength, mental strength, social skills and even emotional stability. There are numerous theories about how these qualities come into play. However, there isn’t one single answer because each individual has their own unique set of strengths and weaknesses.
In the past, most cultures had a hierarchy of values. One of those values was self-reliance. Self-reliance meant that individuals were responsible for themselves and didn’t depend on anyone else for anything. They could make their own decisions about their lives without worrying about someone else interfering with them.
This kind of attitude made people feel secure in their abilities to take care of themselves and they felt free to pursue whatever interests they wanted.
As the years have passed, that attitude has slowly faded. Today, people tend to rely on one another for help in their day-to-day lives. People in this kind of society have little say over their own destiny because they must answer to someone else. This is most common among the youth.
You are no exception. Many times you’ve been told what to do, when to do it and how to do it. Sometimes, the orders make sense. Other times they are illogical and you feel that you shouldn’t follow them.
You see other young people in your same situation. They go to school to learn things that don’t seem relevant to their lives and they have very little say in the matter. At times, school can even be dangerous because there are bullies who enjoy giving others orders and making their lives miserable.
As you grow older and move on to the working world, your situation doesn’t get any better. You are told that you must earn money so that you can continue living your life. This is a never-ending cycle for most people and it never occurs to them to break out of it because they never developed the self-reliance mindset that was once common in society.
You don’t want to remain as another drone in the hive. You want to live a meaningful life and enjoy the experiences that you have, but you don’t want to be restricted by someone else’s rules. This is why it is extremely important that you break out of your mold. You must become strong-minded.
When you learn how to become self-reliant, it will make everything else in your life a lot easier.
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