Ten Ways to Win Over Your Grappler Friend
1) You are not afraid of him!
If you have been bullied or harassed, then you will understand what I mean when I say that it’s better if you don’t get angry with your bully. But if you do get angry, then don’t let yourself become passive. Instead, stand up for yourself and make sure that he doesn’t win because he won’t be able to do anything against you.
2) Be confident.
Even though you may be smaller than your bully, you are still strong enough to protect yourself. So don’t worry about being small or weak; just think positive thoughts and believe in yourself.
3) Don’t try to intimidate him by threatening him.
Your bully probably thinks that he is so scary that no one would dare threaten him even if they wanted to do it. That’s why you need to keep reminding yourself that he is only scared of losing something, but he isn’t really scared of you.
4) When you want to argue with him, use words instead of threats.
For example, “I’m sorry I didn’t come earlier.” Or “Let me finish my homework first.”
Or even better: “Why did you yell at me?”
If your bully is too lazy to listen to reason, then try using your verbal skills instead. Sometimes, you can make him shut up by just ignoring him.
5) Also, try to use the buddy system.
Get a friend to back you up when you are planning to do something or go somewhere. If your friend feels like he is in danger, then he will help you out. But if he thinks that there is nothing wrong, then he will ignore everything that is happening.
6) Be friends with someone stronger than he is.
Bullies like to pick on children who are smaller and weaker than they are. But if you have a friend who is bigger and stronger than your bully, then he might think twice about picking on you.
7) Stand up for other victims of bullying when you see them getting harassed.
This will teach your bully that he can’t just push everyone around. He needs to respect others’ rights as well as his own.
8) Ignore him.
Pretend that you don’t care what he does or say. The best way to get your bully to leave you alone is to not react to his taunts and put-downs. It is important that you show no emotion, good or bad. If you feel like smiling or laughing because of something he said or did, then bite your tongue really hard so that you will feel the pain and stop yourself from reacting at all.
9) Consider martial arts.
If you are smaller than your bully, then you might want to take a martial arts class. Karate and tae kwon do are very popular for this reason. Learning how to defend yourself is always a good idea, especially if your school doesn’t have a good security system.
10) Above all, remember that you can never completely eliminate bullying. Even if you take all these steps, your bully might still find a way to get back at you.
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