Body Language Power Moves: What are they?
The first thing that comes into your mind when you hear the word “power” is probably guns or violence. However, there’s another kind of power which is even stronger than physical strength – it’s mental! And it goes beyond just showing off a strong personality; it can actually change someone else’s behavior. That’s what these body language power moves do: They make you feel like you have more control over other people.
What does it mean to have more control over others?
Well, it means being able to influence their actions. You could say that it’s like having a bigger voice in the room. For example, if you’re trying to convince someone not to steal something from a store, then you might use some of these body language power moves. If you want to impress someone with your charisma, then try using them too!
If you’ve ever been around someone who was very charismatic, but didn’t have much self-confidence themselves, then you’ll understand how powerful these body language power moves can be.
How to Use Them?
1) Make eye contact with the person (or persons).
If they don’t look at you, then they’re ignoring you. Try to keep looking directly at them throughout the whole conversation.
2) Try to sit or stand higher than that person.
It makes them feel like you have a higher status than them, and that can definitely give you the upper hand in the conversation.
3) Maintain an open body position.
Keep your arms uncrossed and keep your legs uncrossed also. Crossing your arms and legs makes it look like you’re defensive, which will probably put the other person on the defense too!
4) Lean towards them.
As with eye contact, this shows that you’re interested in what they have to say or at least listening to them very closely.
5) Ask them questions.
Asking questions shows that you’re interested in learning more about what’s on their mind. For some reason, most people love talking about themselves (even if it’s something bad), so chances are they’ll keep talking and also keep paying attention to you.
6) Keep your head up.
This shows that you’re confident and also helps elongate your neck, which makes you look more attractive.
In short, if you want to convince someone to do something or to like you, then just remember to use these body language power moves whenever you can. They really do work wonders.
Now that you know about the power of body language, it’s time for you to put it into action! Get out there and practice these moves the next time you want to get someone to do something for you.
At first, it might feel a little weird, but after some practice your confidence will build and you’ll feel more comfortable using them. Have fun!
The above is an extract from the book ‘Body Language Gold: Body Language Secrets That Will Instantly Help You Read Others’ by Martin Yate.
Does this work?
Well, that is what you will have to find out for yourself. I can only tell you about my own experiences with this technique or strategy, which have been mostly positive.
When I first started to learn about and apply the concept of body language in my life, it was mostly for a laugh.
But as I learned more about the subject, and began to see how effective it is in communication, I started to use it as a strategy to get what I want from people.
I won’t lie, getting someone to give you something using only your body language definitely feels good. It is a little addictive too, which is why it is best to use this strategy only when you really need something from someone.
But other than that, there are no downsides that I can think of.
Probably the biggest thing is that it takes practice and you might feel a little silly in the beginning, but then what big things in life don’t?
The first time I used this in an extreme way was when I was 16 and wanted to go to a music festival that you needed to be 18 to get into. Now, it would be pretty easy to just sneak in with a bunch of older friends, but I didn’t have that option.
So what did I do?
I waited outside the venue until I saw a group of about 5 or 6 teens who looked like they were about my age. I then followed them at a close enough distance so that we all got inside but far enough away that they wouldn’t think I was following them.
Once inside, I made sure to position myself in the crowd in a place where I could see the group at all times. Then, whenever they would move, I would move and vice versa.
I didn’t want to look like I was following them, so I would position myself over to the side a bit after each movement.
This continued for most of the night until they finally left the concert. Now, all I had to do is wait until they exited the venue and then follow them outside.
The second I got outside, I ditched the group and found a place to hide where I could see everyone exiting the venue. As soon as I saw my chance, I quickly exited and hailed a cab.
I know this all probably sounds a bit sketchy, but everything worked out. There were no problems at all and I was happy with the result.
This might not seem like a big thing, but for a teenager who didn’t have much money, it was awesome.
Since then, I have used body language to get a few free drinks, a couple of free taxi rides, and even a free mobile phone!
But again, you don’t need to get something for nothing from people. In fact, you shouldn’t try it too much or you will get a bad reputation and no one will want to help you out.
Also, it is pretty easy to see through if the other person is intelligent enough, or if they are skeptical at all.
The next time you’re out and about, really pay attention to the nonverbal cues of the people around you. For every time you see someone doing something that you do, such as scratching their head, I can almost guarantee you they are doing it for the same reason you are: because they have an itch and their brain is telling them to do it
With that being said, there are some situations where what you might think is a nonverbal cue is actually not. In fact, it is vital that you realize this.
The first thing to understand is that what you believe a nonverbal cue to mean, doesn’t always mean that to the other person. In fact, different people can have vastly different thoughts about the same cue.
What does this mean?
It means that just because you think someone likes you because they are leaning in towards you, it doesn’t mean that’s the case at all. They might actually have a crick in their back and be leaning in towards you in an effort to relieve the pressure.
Believe it or not, but people can even interpret the same nonverbal behavior differently based on their past experiences with other people displaying the exact same behavior.
If you were to raise your eyebrow at someone, what does that usually mean? You’re skeptical about what they’re saying, right?
Well, this isn’t always true. Some people actually raise their eyebrows when they are interested in what the other person is saying. Either way, it isn’t taken as a negative gesture.
Instead of just reading this, you need to go out and actually do this. Go out and try to apply what you’re learning.
Go to a local park and start talking to people.
The first thing you need to realize is that some people are just going to be rude. In fact, some people are just going to be mean.
Don’t take it personally and don’t let it discourage you. It’s going to take a lot of practice before you get good at this.
The second thing is that you aren’t going to be good at this right away. You’re going to mess up and you’re going to screw up.
Don’t let this discourage you either. Just keep practicing and learning from your mistakes.
With time, you will get better.
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